The grass is greener... Where?

"The grass is greener on the other side,"

You use this proverb to express your feelings when you realize the things other people have or when their situation looks better than your own. However they may or may not be really so, yet we perceive them to be. We tend to believe that ‘The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’. Often, we compare our homes to those of others, or our relationships or the work we do, all seems so mundane and so the other side starts seeming greener. For instance, take your work place, often we say, that school is better, they do this, that work is nicer, even in a relationship we say something similar; other’s relationships seems more perfect than our own, Grass is indeed greener on the other side. Then comes along someone wiser and gives us a thought to live by- ‘Try to be content where you are, rather than thinking that things are better on the ‘other side’, than my side’. So, begins our journey of contentment. We start being happy and content in what we have, however have you ever wondered why can’t we have both the sides, our side and the greener side. Another thought comes to mind, as often when we reach the other side of the fence the grass doesn’t seem Greener anymore? I sat wondering about all these questions.

I then heard someone say yet another phrase and it stuck with me: The Grass is Greener where you water it. This quote got onto me like magic, I could make sense of the world and what was happening to me. I was content and yet had greener grass. I stopped complaining about my life and situations in my life. If I wanted my job to be better, I had to water it and nurture it and likewise for my relationship, if I wanted it better, needed to water it. The grass on the other side is greener, because someone else is watering it and nurturing it and your side Grass is arid because it lacks your attention and nurturing. That other side Green grass doesn’t belong to you, it belongs to the person watering it and that is the reason when you reach the other side the Grass doesn’t seem greener. So whichever side you are on, just make your grass green.

It is in our hands to water our grass, we have that power. If your grass starts becoming scorched, here are some ways to water it:

·       Identify what you want: You must get a hang of your wants and direction

·       Know why do you want it: You must know why you want something to drive you through and take actions for when you are faced with the challenges and struggles

·       Why is it that you still don’t have it: Is it that you have never wanted it so much in life or what are you waiting for, so don’t blame anyone for what you haven’t been able to achieve because you haven’t done enough to get it, haven’t watered your grass well

·       What is it you are not doing to get the results: Distraction, procrastination and casual attitudes lead to arid grass on your side. Get going and moving out of your comfort zone.

At the end, I would only say that Grass is always Greener on the side it is watered, rest is all perception. We have the power to choose to make our side Greener or Arid.

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https://catherinecollautt.com/blog/the-grass-is-greener/